Passing Failure..

Hey Beauties!

So, I haven't been keeping up with my promise of updating more often. But in this regard it's definitely better late than never, so here we go!

For the longest time I struggled with the fear of success, I think I disguised it as being afraid of failure. But looking back I was afraid of success. Afraid of being better than everyone else. Worried about having to explain to my family why I'm doing better than them or making them feel inferior. Most people family's want them to do better, I never got that feeling from my family. It was always questions of why you want to do xyz. The complacency is why they are in the situations they are in now. I don't blame them though, they didn't know any better.

For awhile now I've been just making enough. Never really reaching my full potential. One day I woke up and asked myself, "why"?  Why struggle when you don't have to? Why are you accepting mediocrity in your life? Since then, I've been actively pushing myself to break the cycle of self neglect.

The Secret really helped opened my eyes to my self destructive habits. I figured out how my attitude affected my life. Like attracts like. I was full of negative thoughts, there fore I was living a negative life.  After I read The Secret became more conscious of my moods and the energy I was exerting. It's all a matter of how you want to feel. I actively choose to be happy. When I wake up I treat every day as a new day, because that's what it is. There's no point in carrying yesterday's drama, sadness or disappointment into the new day.

In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure. 

Bill Cosby 

It's like we stress over nothing, ALLL the time. Think about it like this, has crying, been sad or angry EVER solved your problem? I can honestly say it hasn't solved any of mine. Once you grasp that concept you can move on with your life. 

Most people claim to be religious and such. So, if you serve a faithful God then why are you worried? What ever is going to happen will not change. 

With saying all of that I want you to invest in yourself daily. If you are religious study the word. If you are like me and still trying to figure yourself out I suggest reading The Secret. Everyone should write their goals and have a dream board. Get started in taking control of your life. 

Stay Beautiful!

We Need To Focus..

Hey Beauties!
If you guys are keeping up with us you can clearly see that we haven't been posting on the timeline that we originally set, Our B! Hopefully that will be our last hiccup! I mean how can we be encouraging to anyone if we can't even get our own ish straight!  I know there are people out there who waaaaaayy busier than me and they manage to do all of the things they set out to do. So, there really isn't an excuse.

With that being said let's start this week off on a clean slate with obtainable goals!

The most important thing to do, in my opinion, with goals are to make them obtainable and give yourself time to actually complete them. Make appointments with yourself and KEEP them. If you are planning on blogging, working out or whatever your thing might be it's best to actually make the time to do it. We have 24 hours in a day, minus the 8 you should be sleeping you still have another 16. Lessen the time you spend on instagram, facebook and twitter or at least use those resources to promote your brand and increase your following. At the end of the day you have to be productive when trying to succeed.

If you find yourself having no time for things that you enjoy, something has to change. Cut back on giving so much of yourself if it interferes with you being the best version of yourself.  For me, if I don't have the time or chance to decompress from the world it makes me irritable and cranky. I'm learning that I need TEI TIME, without it I'm a bitch in the negative sense. Everyday isn't the same, some days I need less time others I might need more.

Here are my quick tips on staying focused:

1. Remove or limit your distractions. Personally, I concentrate better with things going on around me. Don't know why I just do. If I'm in complete silence I get antsy and uncomfortable.

2. Set a realistic Goal. For all my fitness heads it's unrealistic to think that you are going to lose 50lbs in 3 days, give yourself a real time frame.

3. Create A Vision Board.  Put quotes or images up that help keep you motivated. A refresher as to why you started on the path you did is sometimes needed.

4. Don't Fear Failure.  I used to fear success and failure. I played things safely and did what was expected of me. I've learned that some successes are disguised as failures, I welcome both equally.

If you need an additional push here's a quick reading list: The Alchemist, The Four Agreements and The Secret.

Stay Focused, Beauties!